a liturgy for decision making

[some valuable advice from Parker Palmer on conflict in meetings – there have been several times when we have clearly witnessed the truth of this]:

….In the midst of such a liturgy, it would also be important to call for periods of silent meditation as the decision was being made. So often we heighten our conflicts by trying to “talk them out,” only to end up in a warfare of words. Where words divide us, silence can unite us, for in that silence people can sort and sift their passions and be given opportunities to hear beyond the words. In my own community’s business meetings we sometimes say that the longer and the more loaded the agenda before us, the longer should be our periods of silent worship, and results often prove the rightness of this approach.

– Parker Palmer, The Company of Strangers