[some valuable advice from Parker Palmer on conflict in meetings – there have been several times when we have clearly witnessed the truth of this]:
….In the midst of such a liturgy, it would also be important to call for periods of silent meditation as the decision was being made. So often we heighten our conflicts by trying to “talk them out,” only to end up in a warfare of words. Where words divide us, silence can unite us, for in that silence people can sort and sift their passions and be given opportunities to hear beyond the words. In my own community’s business meetings we sometimes say that the longer and the more loaded the agenda before us, the longer should be our periods of silent worship, and results often prove the rightness of this approach.
– Parker Palmer, The Company of Strangers
In those who have suffered too many blows, in slaves for example, that place in the heart from which the infliction of evil evokes a cry of surprise may seem to be dead. But it is never quite dead; it is simply unable to cry out any more….
…those who most often have occasion to feel that evil is being done to them are those who are least trained in the art of speech….
Apart from the intelligence, the only human faculty which has an interest in public freedom of expression is that point in the heart which cries out against evil. But as it cannot express itself, freedom is of little use to it. What is first needed is a system of public education capable of providing it, so far as possible, with means of expression; and next, a regime in which the public freedom of expression is characterized not so much by freedom as by an attentive silence in which this faint and inept cry can make itself heard; and finally, institutions are needed of a sort which will, so far as possible, put power into the hands of [people] who are able and anxious to hear and understand it.
– Simone Weil